On the flip side, a friend of mine named Jenny was on a reality show a couple years ago and, as a result, found herself with a plethora of new Twitter fans. One of them was Ryan, a lawyer who saw her on TV, became infatuated with her and started following her. He tweeted at her, “Hey, saw you on your TV show. You should definitely win.”
In the beginning, she thought it was nothing more than another fan flattering her, even when he continued to contact her. After she mentioned attending an event, he tweeted, “How was the party?” And in reference to a picture she tweeted, he responded, “You look gorgeous as always.” And when talking about her me favourite tome, he tweeted, “I love that book too!” He finally sent her a direct message mentioning that he would be in her town in a few months and would love to buy her a drink when he was there.
At first she was slightly taken aback. What kind of guy would actually hit on a girl via Twitter? But, then again, Ryan was an attractive lawyer, hardly the type she reasoned to randomly troll the internet for women. Plus, he was easily Google-able. Though that certainly doesn’t make him a better person, it, without a doubt, adds an element of safety. Had he been Joe Schmoe, it might have taken much more time to build up Jenny’s trust. He was also smart enough to give her enough of a heads up of his arrival as to not ambush her and give her time to think about his offer.
After messaging each other back and forth, he finally flew out to see her. The sparks flew immediately and so their cross-country courtship began. They have now been dating for two years.
The Medium Has Changed, But Has The Game?
As you can see, meeting women on Twitter can go both ways. But the success — or lack thereof — has less to do with the medium and more to do with the person doing the tweeting. In Jason’s case, he wanted something to happen but didn’t make any effort. In Ryan’s case, he was willing to take a leap of faith by not only flirting with Jenny via Twitter, but by making a plan to go and see her. While Twitter was the medium that brought Ryan and Jenny together, it was Ryan’s proactiveness that got him the girl, not Twitter. Had Twitter not existed, Ryan would have undoubtedly found another way to meet Jenny. Jason, alternatively, would probably not have found another way to contact me.
So can meeting women via Twitter work? I think the answer is a firm yes. Does it seem crazy? Yes, but the dating game has changed a lot from our parents’ generation. Or even in the last five years. With the digital world, the possibilities for meeting women are endless. But while the medium is ever evolving, the game is still the same. Even if technology allows us ever-increasing ways to interact, it’s all pointless if you don’t know how to play by the game. In other words, though the means of flirtation may be new, the rules of attraction are not. So use Twitter, Facebook or whatever means you have at your disposal to meet women, but only if you’ve got the balls to follow through.
Whether in real life or in the digital realm, you still need to grow a pair, be a man and get the girl. (Feel free to tweet that — it’s less that 140 characters.)